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bidyke:

princeofhyenas:

rcmclachlan:

doodlyood:

spinachandrice:

theonewholovesbooks:

thatfilthyanimal:

fawnthefeminist:

Young women are having difficulty accessing tubal ligation, despite it being a relatively safe (death rate is 1-2 per 100,000) and elective surgery.

There is a waiting period of 30 days for women seeking tubal ligation, yet no waiting period for men seeking vasectomies. 
(Source)


Young women are often discriminated against when seeking sterilization. Many doctors ask offensive questions (“What if you met a billionaire who wanted to have kids with you?”), state categorically that their patients are too young to consider the surgery, and generally act as though, as one woman who tried unsuccessfully to be sterilized at the age of 21 in the U.K. put it, ”just because I was a woman, I’d reach a point where an urge to breed would overcome all rational thought.” (Perhaps unsurprisingly, that woman’s 25-year-old husband faced no such presumptions when he asked his doctor for a vasectomy. The procedure was quickly approved.)
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Say that at 18 I slap down enough money so I could have my whole body covered head-to-toe in tattoos, piercings all over myself, a mountain of cigarettes, plastic surgery, and plan to have like 20 babies… but if I try at all to safely make it impossible for me to breed for the sake of my health suddenly its like WOAH THERE SLOW DOWN MISSY YOU’RE NOT READY FOR THIS KIND OF COMMITMENT YET

I have stage III Endometriosis, which means I have to get my uterus removed because I literally have terrible cramps ALL THE TIME and not just when I’m on my period. Now, I’ve always said I don’t want any children for personal reasons and I don’t need my uterus, really. I am not worried about that surgery and I don’t feel any kind of nostalgia over an organ I won’t ever use. 
The thing is, my doctor is a ‘man’. This ‘man’ told me I had to get pregnant right now before it’s too late. I told him I didn’t want to get pregnant and explained the multiple reasons but what, do you ask, did my doctor have to say about this? 'Well, better have a kid now because just imagine how depressing it must be being a thirty-something woman without children and a husband?'
I was diagnosed a year ago. I should have gone through surgery six months ago and I still can’t find a doctor that will perform the surgery without trying to force me to have children first. Basically, if you’re a woman you don’t have a say in what can and cannot be done to your body without a shitload of people getting in the way AND I’M FUCKING SICK OF IT.

Women are getting non-consensually sterilized in prison but no doctors in my area while tie my tubes at 24 because I might regret it? Fuck you, doctors. I have more purpose in life than dropping babies. Some of those women in prison are probably great moms and I have no interest in parenting. Let us have a say!

A dear friend of mine wanted to have her tubes tied.  She was about to give birth to twins and the doctors wouldn’t consent because she wasn’t 21 yet.  She had already had children and they still refused to let her have the procedure.

My friend got a vasectomy a week after asking his doctor for one, no problem. He was 25.
Me? I’ve asked 4 different doctors for some kind of permanent sterilisation—tubal ligation or Essure or whatever—and I get a pat on the head and a “You’d regret it if you did.”
Oh, DIDN’T REALIZE YOU HAD A DIRECT LINE TO MY BRAIN.

i’m a trans guy. i also have bad endometriosis that makes periods even more horrible (on top of the terrible dysphoria i have when i’m on one).
my family, for the longest time (i’ve been saying i don’t want kids from the time i was about 6 or 7), told me to just suck it up and get used to having periods and not think about sterilization because “you might change your mind some day”. fuck that noise, i want these organs out of me ASAP.

This is horrifying.
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bidyke:

princeofhyenas:

rcmclachlan:

doodlyood:

spinachandrice:

theonewholovesbooks:

thatfilthyanimal:

fawnthefeminist:

Young women are having difficulty accessing tubal ligation, despite it being a relatively safe (death rate is 1-2 per 100,000) and elective surgery.

There is a waiting period of 30 days for women seeking tubal ligation, yet no waiting period for men seeking vasectomies. 

(Source)

Young women are often discriminated against when seeking sterilization. Many doctors ask offensive questions (“What if you met a billionaire who wanted to have kids with you?”), state categorically that their patients are too young to consider the surgery, and generally act as though, as one woman who tried unsuccessfully to be sterilized at the age of 21 in the U.K. put it, ”just because I was a woman, I’d reach a point where an urge to breed would overcome all rational thought.” (Perhaps unsurprisingly, that woman’s 25-year-old husband faced no such presumptions when he asked his doctor for a vasectomy. The procedure was quickly approved.)

(Source)

Say that at 18 I slap down enough money so I could have my whole body covered head-to-toe in tattoos, piercings all over myself, a mountain of cigarettes, plastic surgery, and plan to have like 20 babies… but if I try at all to safely make it impossible for me to breed for the sake of my health suddenly its like WOAH THERE SLOW DOWN MISSY YOU’RE NOT READY FOR THIS KIND OF COMMITMENT YET

I have stage III Endometriosis, which means I have to get my uterus removed because I literally have terrible cramps ALL THE TIME and not just when I’m on my period. Now, I’ve always said I don’t want any children for personal reasons and I don’t need my uterus, really. I am not worried about that surgery and I don’t feel any kind of nostalgia over an organ I won’t ever use. 

The thing is, my doctor is a ‘man’. This ‘man’ told me I had to get pregnant right now before it’s too late. I told him I didn’t want to get pregnant and explained the multiple reasons but what, do you ask, did my doctor have to say about this? 'Well, better have a kid now because just imagine how depressing it must be being a thirty-something woman without children and a husband?'

I was diagnosed a year ago. I should have gone through surgery six months ago and I still can’t find a doctor that will perform the surgery without trying to force me to have children first. Basically, if you’re a woman you don’t have a say in what can and cannot be done to your body without a shitload of people getting in the way AND I’M FUCKING SICK OF IT.

Women are getting non-consensually sterilized in prison but no doctors in my area while tie my tubes at 24 because I might regret it? Fuck you, doctors. I have more purpose in life than dropping babies. Some of those women in prison are probably great moms and I have no interest in parenting. Let us have a say!

A dear friend of mine wanted to have her tubes tied.  She was about to give birth to twins and the doctors wouldn’t consent because she wasn’t 21 yet.  She had already had children and they still refused to let her have the procedure.

My friend got a vasectomy a week after asking his doctor for one, no problem. He was 25.

Me? I’ve asked 4 different doctors for some kind of permanent sterilisation—tubal ligation or Essure or whatever—and I get a pat on the head and a “You’d regret it if you did.”

Oh, DIDN’T REALIZE YOU HAD A DIRECT LINE TO MY BRAIN.

i’m a trans guy. i also have bad endometriosis that makes periods even more horrible (on top of the terrible dysphoria i have when i’m on one).

my family, for the longest time (i’ve been saying i don’t want kids from the time i was about 6 or 7), told me to just suck it up and get used to having periods and not think about sterilization because “you might change your mind some day”. fuck that noise, i want these organs out of me ASAP.

This is horrifying.

(Source: redundant-lioness)

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#sbpositive  #sexism  #sterilization  

omnbvc:

i am demisexual meaning i am only attracted to those born of gods or who are themselves a diety. move out of the way assholes, i’m gonna fuck zeus

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sad-cannibal-noises:

ivyarchive:

buzzfeedgeeky:

Famous Movie Liners You’ve Been Quoting Wrong For Years.

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I will use “Dammit, Jim I’m a doctor” til my dying breath

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strangelyobsessedwithstuff:

spacemarried:

socknerd:

squeakykins:

stfusexists:

bapgeek:

askmeaboutmygrandkids:

mmapunks-oblivion:

moogy:

regularsizedmeech:

vandallsavage:

The game has been changed.

the game has not been changed that is probably why he got a no with his insensitive unreasonable self

'I spent money on you now you are mine, since you said no I want a refund'….yeahhhhh good thing she said no!

Fuck you cunts! She will never be able to give him back the shattered pieces of his heart that she stole from him or repair the damage she caused, if she won’t return the love he had for her, she may as well return all the money he worked hard for just to shower her with it and express his love and desire for her that she had just thrown back in his face. This is the exact reason I laugh at my friend for buying girls expensive ass gifts haha. Oh and before you go saying that that is obviously why he probably gets more girls than me, every one of those girls left him within the first few months lol Heart-breaking, gold digging cunts.

why won’t the cunts love you tho

Everything that is wrong with the dating game, summed up in one headline.

From the article:

A woman who turned down a marriage proposal from a wealthy suitor was shocked when he handed her a bill for roughly $185,000 that he claims amounts to all the money he spent on her.
Single mother Marie Lacombe(42), from Melbourne, Australia, says she was never actually romantically involved with 65-year-old Bruce Dusting, Scallywag reports.

So delusional guy twenty years her senior turns what she believes to be a friendship during a hard time to basically be indentured servitude. And SHE’S the bad person.

^^^^

And even if they’d actually been going out, just because he spent money DOESN’T MEAN SHE OWES HIM THE REST OF HER LIFE. MARRIAGE IS NO LONGER A CONTRACT WHERE A MAN BUYS A WOMAN. GET THAT INTO YOUR HEADS!
And about “gold-diggers” - you’re the one deciding to let go of the money mate. No-one to blame but yourself.

THIS ACTUALLY HAPPENED TO MY FRIEND. She dated this guy for a while and things didn’t work out and then he SENT HER A BILL FOR ALL THE MONEY HE SPENT DURING THEIR RELATIONSHIP BECAUSE THERE WAS NO RETURN ON HIS INVESTMENT. I’m so glad she’s not with him anymore. SO GLAD.

This whole thing is pretty much a sequel to the friend zone. The guy is like “I don’t understand ! I’ve been kind and gave a lot of things to this woman, yet… she doesn’t love me ? I mean, she totally owes me love after all I did for her ! Oh well, if she doesn’t, then she’ll owe me money.”It also follows the same “love-dispenser” pattern that usually comes with the friend zone. You know, the whole “A woman isn’t a machine you put kindness coins in until sex falls out”.Well here, this woman isn’t some sort of machine you give money and expensive things to until marriage happens.Being kind to someone doesn’t mean they have to be attracted to you afterwards, or that they owe you anything. Being kind to someone is like one of the things you have to do to be a decent human being. Of course, this doesn’t involve buying expensive presents for the other, but dude. They weren’t even dating. The guy just started buying her shit she probably didn’t want, expecting her to suddenly start liking him, and then demanded a fucking refund when he noticed that his “efforts” didn’t pay off.Typical.
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strangelyobsessedwithstuff:

spacemarried:

socknerd:

squeakykins:

stfusexists:

bapgeek:

askmeaboutmygrandkids:

mmapunks-oblivion:

moogy:

regularsizedmeech:

vandallsavage:

The game has been changed.

the game has not been changed that is probably why he got a no with his insensitive unreasonable self

'I spent money on you now you are mine, since you said no I want a refund'….yeahhhhh good thing she said no!

Fuck you cunts! She will never be able to give him back the shattered pieces of his heart that she stole from him or repair the damage she caused, if she won’t return the love he had for her, she may as well return all the money he worked hard for just to shower her with it and express his love and desire for her that she had just thrown back in his face. This is the exact reason I laugh at my friend for buying girls expensive ass gifts haha. Oh and before you go saying that that is obviously why he probably gets more girls than me, every one of those girls left him within the first few months lol Heart-breaking, gold digging cunts.

why won’t the cunts love you tho

Everything that is wrong with the dating game, summed up in one headline.

From the article:

A woman who turned down a marriage proposal from a wealthy suitor was shocked when he handed her a bill for roughly $185,000 that he claims amounts to all the money he spent on her.

Single mother Marie Lacombe(42), from Melbourne, Australia, says she was never actually romantically involved with 65-year-old Bruce DustingScallywag reports.

So delusional guy twenty years her senior turns what she believes to be a friendship during a hard time to basically be indentured servitude. And SHE’S the bad person.

^^^^

And even if they’d actually been going out, just because he spent money DOESN’T MEAN SHE OWES HIM THE REST OF HER LIFE. MARRIAGE IS NO LONGER A CONTRACT WHERE A MAN BUYS A WOMAN. GET THAT INTO YOUR HEADS!

And about “gold-diggers” - you’re the one deciding to let go of the money mate. No-one to blame but yourself.

THIS ACTUALLY HAPPENED TO MY FRIEND. She dated this guy for a while and things didn’t work out and then he SENT HER A BILL FOR ALL THE MONEY HE SPENT DURING THEIR RELATIONSHIP BECAUSE THERE WAS NO RETURN ON HIS INVESTMENT. I’m so glad she’s not with him anymore. SO GLAD.

This whole thing is pretty much a sequel to the friend zone. The guy is like “I don’t understand ! I’ve been kind and gave a lot of things to this woman, yet… she doesn’t love me ? I mean, she totally owes me love after all I did for her ! Oh well, if she doesn’t, then she’ll owe me money.”
It also follows the same “love-dispenser” pattern that usually comes with the friend zone. You know, the whole “A woman isn’t a machine you put kindness coins in until sex falls out”.
Well here, this woman isn’t some sort of machine you give money and expensive things to until marriage happens.

Being kind to someone doesn’t mean they have to be attracted to you afterwards, or that they owe you anything. Being kind to someone is like one of the things you have to do to be a decent human being. Of course, this doesn’t involve buying expensive presents for the other, but dude. They weren’t even dating. The guy just started buying her shit she probably didn’t want, expecting her to suddenly start liking him, and then demanded a fucking refund when he noticed that his “efforts” didn’t pay off.
Typical.

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#sbpositive  #sexism  
nonespark:

sterlingkato:

MEMO: The space bar is important. 

how. IN THE FUCK. did that get through.
who was drunk and officially sent this advertisement out. who didn’t tell them something was wrong. who put up an inappropriately faulty billboard without anyone saying anything.
what monkeys were in charge of this operation.
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nonespark:

sterlingkato:

MEMO: The space bar is important. 

how. IN THE FUCK. did that get through.

who was drunk and officially sent this advertisement out. who didn’t tell them something was wrong. who put up an inappropriately faulty billboard without anyone saying anything.

what monkeys were in charge of this operation.

(Source: ninjakato)

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imminentlyginger:

you fucked up

I CAN’T STOP LAUGHING IT HURTS

(Source: becca-morley)

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mareeps:

my favorite mythical creatures are the happy girls in tampon commercials

(Source: neptunain)

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narwhal-noir:

I took my girlfriend to an improv show the other night and during intermission we were passionately arguing over whether half a 5 Hour Energy shot would give you 2.5 hours of energy or 5 hours of half-assed energy so we turned around to ask the opinions of the three people behind us and one of them said “Are all your arguments like this because we heard you in the lobby earlier fighting over the right way to pronounce ‘egg’?”

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the-woman-of-belgravia:

jewist:

the worst is having a dream where someone loves you and you can practically feel them touching you and it feels so real and then you wake up and it’s like the life is being sucked out of you and the happiness just drains out of your body and you feel empty again

i’ve experienced this type of dream and let me tell you that is a spot on description

it is the worst feeling in the world

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flatbear:

cumberbitch-in-a-tardis:

marin-fluently-sarcastic:

counterpunches:

Gordon Ramsay is my favorite.

i just want to hug all of them

Fun story. I cooked for this dude, once. I did my kitchen apprenticeship at the family-style restaurant of one of New Zealand’s premiere chefs, and he knew Ramsay really well. He was in New Zealand for a few weeks, and Martin brought him by the restaurant to check it out. It was right on the beach, fucking gorgeous. I was the only one there (apprentice = bitch work = 4am starting shifts), and they asked me to whip up some breakfast for them. It was SUPER simple, fried fish, eggs cooked in bread, sausages. He was incredibly gracious and kind, asked me to join them (I couldn’t, too much work to do, so they sat at the kitchen window so they could talk to me), and was super interested in hearing about my english grandma, who had taught me how to cook. I won’t hear a single bad word against this man, for all of his kitchen hysterics, he treated me like an equal.

(Source: gordonramsaygifs)

saasmiyaa:

Here’s a nice list of things Muslim sisters can do without being criticized:

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collections that are raw as fuck ➝ krikor jabotian s/s 2014

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#mighty need  #wishlist  #clothes  

clown-dick:

for someone who pretends to have no emotions whatsoever im really sensitive

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#the real me  

When I started transition, almost 14 years ago, I imagined, I had this fantasy, that I would start taking hormones and in a few years, I was gonna blend in and no one would ever know that I was trans. I could just live my life undetected. And I knew a lot of trans folks like that, it was presented as the goal of transitioning. 

When I realized that I wasn’t blending in effortlessly, I had to sort of to reevaluate things for myself. I had to begin to think about and I’ve begin to own this transgender thing. It became something that I had to say, "Well, this is who I am." (x)

(Source: feyminism)

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#sbpositive  #transgender  #gender  

dontneedyourheroact:

what i love about mythbusters is that once they bust a myth they manipulate their variables until something finally explodes bc we all know why you’re really watching this show

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